DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife has thrown me out of our house for watching porn.
I’ve told her I’m sorry and begged her to take me back but she refuses.
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I’m 37 and she’s 35. We have three young kids together.
A couple of years ago, she found images on my phone and threatened to chuck me out if I didn’t stop.
She hates porn and says it makes her feel insecure.
I promised not to do it again but every bloke I know watches porn or looks at naughty pics.
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All I did on this occasion was click on a website.
She says I’ve hurt her and can’t be trusted, so we have no future. She wants time alone.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You might feel she has made a rash decision but in her view you have broken your promise and the trust between you.
This is a dealbreaker for her.
Give her the time and space she has asked for. Then ask if you can work on your relationship together and try to rebuild the trust.
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You will both need to agree on your boundaries. In the meantime, my support pack called Upset By Pornography should help you to understand her feelings.
Give couples’ counselling a try. You can find out more at tavistockrelationships.org (020 7380 1960).
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